Your kids want to be just like you, right? Sometimes parents forget this and may not always set the best examples for their children to live by. You want your children to have positive role models in life, but you might be forgetting that you–their parent–are the most influential role model they have. Make sure you are setting a positive example as your child's role model.
So, what makes a good role model? There are many ways we influence our children, from decision-making skills to self-esteem. Here are 8 tips for making sure you're a positive influence on your children.
1. Show Your Love
Make sure your children know you love them unconditionally. Even if you are unhappy with their behavior or need to discipline them at times, you should still show that you love them.
2. Stay Involved
Be involved in your children's lives outside of home, whether it is to watch them play sports or act as a member of their school's PTA. Show them that you value education and extracurricular activities.
3. Exude Positive Self-Esteem
Make sure you children know you are proud of who you are and what you do. Be confident and happy about yourself, and your children should feel the same about themselves. Avoid making negative comments or putting yourself down in front of your children.
4. Share Values
We all want to teach our children right from wrong–the best way to do so is to lead by example. Many of our values are learned from our parents and stick with us for life.
5. Share Healthy Habits
If you want your children to have healthy habits, you've got to set the example. Set healthy living habits by going to the doctor and dentist on schedule, cooking and eating healthy, and exercising regularly. Avoid abusing drugs, smoking and other risky behaviors.
6. Drink Responsibly
If you drink alcohol, do it responsibly, don't drink and drive, and never encourage your kids or teens to drink underage.
7. Admit Mistakes
You expect your children to admit when they make a mistake or do something wrong, so show them that even you make mistakes. But reiterate the importance of apologizing.
8. Share Success & Failure
If you appear to be perfect to your children, they will feel regret when they experience a failure. Make sure they know that even Mom and Dad aren't always perfect!