As the weather heats up, teens start looking forward to the summer break from school. Help prepare your teen for the transition from the structure of the school year to the wide open schedule of summertime. Offer your teen plenty of options for activities to prevent boredom and risky behavior.  By researching summer opportunities now, you'll help your teen establish reasonable summer expectations.

Summer Employment
Help your teen look for a safe, rewarding summer job. Teens can work at camps for younger kids, at summer facilities such as swimming pools or in restaurants. According to the Occupational Safety & Health Administration, almost 30 percent of food and drink employees are under the age of 20. Landscaping and lawn service are also popular jobs for teens during the summer. Contact your teen’s employer to verify the safety and validity of the position.

Summer Camps
If your teen is younger, try looking into a summer camp or overnight camp. In this case, your teen should be able to give you input regarding her interests. Sending a teen to a camp she doesn’t want to attend is an unnecessary punishment. Look into camps that teach specific skills or adventure camps that incorporate travel and physical fitness.

Summer Volunteering
High school students are required to complete a certain number of volunteer hours to graduate. Service organizations and other clubs often require additional hours. The summer is the perfect time to get in a good chunk of volunteer time. Help your teen look into short term volunteering opportunities, such as work for local animal shelters or with service organization with summer activities.

Summer Travel
Older teens may have the opportunity to travel during the summer. If your teen is driving to his destination, share safe driving tips and help your teen navigate the safest routes. Discourage teens from driving while sleepy and help map out safe places to stay the night on longer trips. Look into opportunities for teens to spend summer time with extended family for a safe, budget-friendly chance to travel.

Summer Homework and School
Unfortunately, homework can’t be entirely ignored over the summer. Encourage teens to read and to work on skills needed for the upcoming school year. The summer is a good chance to take test prep courses and specialized courses such as driver’s education. If your teen has to complete or retake basic courses during summer, give her opportunities to unwind so she doesn’t feel left out of summer fun.

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According to the National Association for Shoplifting Prevention, 89% of kids say they know other kids who shoplift. Whether your teen has been caught shoplifting or not, it’s important to talk to him about shoplifting and the consequences. While often perceived to be a prank, shoplifting is a real crime and needs to be addressed seriously.

Be straightforward about shoplifting
Don’t wait to bring up shoplifting until your teen or a friend of your teen has been caught. Start a conversation about it. Instead of worrying about hurting your teen’s feelings by assuming she might shoplift, let her know that you’re aware of how common it is and that it might be tempting. Once you start a conversation, you can more easily gauge what your teen’s thoughts on shoplifting are.

Get real about consequences
Talk to your teen about the serious consequences of shoplifting. When a kid is caught stealing from a store, the store is very likely to press charges. Charges can land a teen in juvenile detention or prison, and can result in permanent marks that affect job searches and education applications down the road. Ask your teen to imagine how life would be affected by a criminal charge or a punishment like public service. Kidshealth.org reminds teens that consequences may also be emotional, such as feeling guilty or ashamed.

Allow for second chances
If you catch your teen stealing, you may want to give her a second chance. Take her to the store she stole from and encourage her to return the item with a serious apology. It may be frustrating and scary to do this, but you need to stand up to your teen with a very firm stance on the fact that shoplifting is wrong and not a game. If your teen faces serious consequences from shoplifting, make yourself available as a resource for rehabilitation and support. Your goal should be helping your teen move on and succeed in life.

Talk about how shoplifting affects others
Teens steal for a variety of reasons. Some want revenge against a store, others strongly desire unaffordable items, while some teens steal frequently to sell goods to buy drugs or other goods. Other teens may steal socially, caving in to peer pressure for the thrill of it. This can be similar to a high experienced from drugs or alcohol. Regardless of why your teen may be interested in shoplifting, help him understand how it affects employees and business owners. Stealing from a store can cause employees to lose wages or even be fired. Always insist that shoplifting is a real crime, not a prank.

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Just like adults, kids experience stress. Stress can have detrimental effects on health, from disrupting sleep and digestion to triggering depression and anxiety. Stressed out kids may get sick more easily and may struggle in school. As a parent, you can help guide your child through stressful times by teaching healthy stress management techniques.

Let your child know it’s okay
Start off by making it clear that it’s normal and okay to be stressed out. Tell your child that it doesn’t make her weak and that she shouldn’t be embarrassed. Whether her stress comes from school sports, an upcoming test or drama between friends, the way she feels is real and valid.

Address the causes
Sometimes stress can be relieved by changing a situation. If your child is struggling with a specific concern, such as a teacher or friend he doesn’t get along with, look into ways to solve the problem. Some kids don’t thrive in high pressure situations like team sports and shouldn’t be forced to participate if it’s causing too much stress.

Talk it out
Make yourself available as a sounding board for your child’s problems. If she isn’t interested in bringing up stress and anxiety, broach the subject gently. Ask about upcoming events, her friendships and her grades without judgment or expectations. Encourage her to talk to her friends and to other supportive members of the family.

Get your child moving
According to womenshealth.gov, physical activity can help relieve symptoms of depression and anxiety. Encourage your child to play outside, to try sports or to work on stretches. Many recreational centers offer forms of yoga and dance that are appropriate for children.

Make sure your child is sleeping
Stress can eat away at kids, especially at night. If this happens, it can actually cause the stress to get worse when kids end up exhausted during the day. Help your child to break the cycle of worrying in bed at night by teaching good bedtime habits. Allow your child to get up and read if he’s feeling stressed out and unable to sleep.

Teach coping skills
Kids can be taught to cope with stress. Talk to your child about deep breathing techniques and ways to shake off bad feelings, such as visualizing a calming place. Some kids respond well to talking about problems while others do well keeping a private journal. Kidshealth.org suggests that kids try tensing and relaxing muscles in the body to help focus and calm.

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Everywhere you look in the news, there are stories of teens making poor decisions that lead to life-altering consequences. “Where were the parents?” people ask. As a parent, you already know that neglect isn’t necessarily the cause of bad behavior. It’s too easy to blame parents, but at the same time, parents are responsible for shaping behavior. Parenting is a complicated balancing act between being too overbearing and too lenient. Think about your own parenting style and learn to be tough when it counts.

The Importance of Discipline Style
The Underage Drinking Research Initiative conducted a study on parenting practices  They discovered that regardless of the outcome examined, children raised by authoritative parents tended to fare better than their peers. Developmental outcomes studied included body image, academic success and substance abuse.

Authoritative vs. Authoritarian
Studies approached parenting from four categories: neglectful, permissive, authoritative, and authoritarian. While neglectful and permissive are straightforward, it’s important to note the distinction between authoritative and authoritarian. An authoritative parent is tough on discipline, but also offers warmth and guidance to help kids improve and cope. An authoritarian parent is tough on discipline, but also tends to ignore achievements and fail to reward kids for good behavior.

Knowing When to Back Off
While it’s clear that setting tough standards and monitoring kids’ behavior is important to many aspect of a teen’s life, it’s just as important to be a source of support and love for your teen. If you choose to be overbearing and controlling of every aspect of your teen’s day to day routine, you may find yourself being pushed out of the role of a supporter. Stick to your guns when it comes to safety, behavior and health. But choose your battles wisely. Consider being lenient when you can, such as with internet use, gaming or curfews.

Warmth and Support
If your child fails to reach a goal or shows a lapse in judgment, become part of the process of improving. Don’t just lay on the consequences and discipline. For example, if your child tries drugs or alcohol, help your teen come up with ways to prevent drinking or doing drugs in the future. Show your teen pride and love for her accomplishments. Your teen may be desperate for your approval. Take the time to guide her through these fragile developmental stages with compassion and understanding.

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In 2009, studies showed that 37 percent of 8th graders and 72 percent of 12th graders had tried alcohol, according to the CDC. These statistics can be very scary from the perspective of a parent. Whether your child is in middle or high school, now is the time to talk about and continue talking about the dangers of underage drinking.

Talk to your teen about statistics
Your kids are used to reading facts at school in textbooks. Talk about drinking in factual terms. Make sure that your kids understand that underage drinking, particularly underage binge drinking, contributes to serious injury and death.  For example, according to the CDC, in 2008, there were approximately 190,000 emergency rooms visits by underage drinkers. While it may be an uncomfortable topic, discuss the fact that drinking increases the risk of sexual assault. Discuss this topic regardless of your teen’s gender. Visit SAMHSA to discover talking points to share the risks of drinking with your teen.

Do not allow supervised drinking
SAMHSA reports that most underage drinkers get alcohol from a friend or family member. Some parents mistakenly believe that underage drinking is safe if kids are supervised when drinking. Regardless of parental supervision, drinking can still lead to accidents and all known risks. Supervision promotes a sense that underage drinking is safe when it’s not. Never offer your teen a drink or allow teens to drink in your home or another parent’s home. If you have older children, actively discourage them from providing alcohol to your teen. Make sure other parents are aware of your stance.

Support teens at school and at home
Teens need support to say no to underage drinking. Studies by the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism show that parents have the ability to prevent underage drinking by improving parent-child relations in ways such as providing discipline, listening and communicating, monitoring kids and strengthening family bonding. School resources are also important. Encourage your teen to get involved in extra-curricular activities and meaningful relationships with friends. Be available to your teen as a resource for her emotional needs as well as a sounding board to talk about drugs and alcohol.

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Everyone has heard a spring break horror story. Don’t be one of those statistics this year. Instead, play it safe, avoid peer pressure and have fun. The best spring break memories are the times you spend with friends and the time spent having adventures you can’t have at home. Learn how to have a safe, fun spring break.

Plan activities
Instead of arriving at your destination with nothing to do, create a busy itinerary. You’ve been studying for weeks. This is your chance to let loose. Go on hikes, rent water crafts or try a new activity you’ve never done before. Visit local attractions and keep yourself busy. You’ll be less likely to fall into a habit of binge drinking on your vacation if you have plenty of fun things to do.

Travel with safe friends
The best way to avoid peer pressure is to surround yourself with peers who respect you and those you admire. Ditch the friends who do things that make you uncomfortable and make you feel bad about yourself. On vacation, it’s more important than ever to be with people you trust and enjoy hanging out with.

Be street smart
Travel in groups and never go somewhere with a stranger. Keep your identification and health insurance on you and keep an copy of your driver’s license and passport somewhere safe. Make sure someone knows where you are at all times, and use a system of checking in with your friends so that everyone is accounted for. Avoid going to someone’s residence if you’ve just met them, even if you’re in a group.

Don’t binge drink
According to the CDC, about 90 percent of the alcohol consumed by youth under the age of 21 in the United States is in the form of binge drinking. Binge drinking can lead to violence, injury, alcohol poisoning and risky sexual behaviors. During spring break, don’t let this risky action put you and your friends in danger. The CDC also states that in 2008, there were approximately 190,000 emergency rooms visits by people under 21 for injuries and other conditions linked to alcohol. Think about how much you’ve been looking forward to your break and the chance to get away and relax, not end up in the hospital.

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As a parent, one of your most difficult tasks may be having to talk to your kids about drugs. To make matters worse, this is a conversation you’ll have to have more than once. In fact, you may need to have it again and again. As children develop, they have different levels of comprehension and different levels of social awareness. What you tell a preschooler about drugs is very different than what you might tell a junior in high school. Learn to talk to your child about drugs at different ages.

Elementary School
Play it by ear when it comes to talking to your young child about drugs. Chances are, she’ll encounter some form of drugs on television, in advertisements or in person. Use that as an opportunity to bring up drugs like alcohol and cigarettes. Distinguish them from the types of drugs your child may take when she is ill or as a preventative measure. Don’t beat around the bush. Kidsheath.org recommends talking to kids about how drugs can make a person feel, the potential dangers of using them, and the possibilities of very dangerous effects like drug overdose.

Middle School
D.A.R.E recommends watching kids for mood changes and different behavior. You may chalk these things up to becoming a teenager, but it’s important to understand that even middle school kids can begin using drugs and alcohol. As a parent, you have the ability to recognize potentially harmful behavior. Now is the time to discuss drugs in earnest, not just once, but often. Ask your child openly if he has seen someone using drugs or heard someone talking about using drugs. If you see news involving teens and young adults using drugs, being arrested for using drugs, or being injured or killed as a result of using drugs, share the news with your middle schooler and use it as an opportunity for discussion.

High School
According to DrugFree.org, parents have more influence over children than friends, music, TV, the Internet and celebrities. This is your time to make a difference. During this period of your child’s life, he or she is more likely to be offered drugs. You teen probably has friends who use drugs regularly. Drugs are no longer a mystery. Now, more than ever, you need to talk to your child about the dangers of using. Your teen has the smarts to understand dangers. Give your teen solid facts, including information about drunk and drugged driving, overdose, and addiction. Help them focus on the aspects of their life that are positive and fulfilling. Make yourself available as a sounding board so that your teen can express fears and can open up to you.

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Have you ever heard that it takes a village to raise a child? Your teen is no exception to this idea. As your teen grows and learns, she is influenced by her teachers, by peers, by you and by popular culture. The American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry suggests preparing for the teen years by providing a safe and loving home environment. If grandparents are part of your teen’s extended family or home environment, allow them to step into a role model position to help support your teen’s development and well being.

Grandparents Aren’t Parents
Sometimes, teens simply don’t want to talk to parents about personal issues. Before you allow this to hurt your feelings, try to remember being that age. Did you want to share every hope and fear with your parents? Probably not. Sometimes a grandparent is the perfect person to offer to listen and support teens. Not every conversation has to be about a big issue. A grandparent can also be a fresh sounding board for your teen to talk about her day.

Grandparents Raised You
Grandparents have a special insight into something that likely mystifies your teen: Your own teen years. While you might not want to share tales of your crazy haircut or curfew breaking, they can be important stories to help your teen piece together a full picture of who you are as an individual. Grandparents help teens fill in the blanks as they start to understand that their parents are humans too.

Grandparents Were Teens Once, Too
While grandparents grew up in a different day and age, some aspects of being a teen are universal. As role models, grandparents can talk to teens about the everyday stresses involved with friendship, dating and school. While their lives may seem quaint and far away now, issues like having a crush or not fitting in will always be universal.

Grandparents are Fascinating
Teens may be likely to connect with grandparents over stories and history that are unique to that grandparent. If your teen shows an interest in a grandparent’s hobby or history, provide time for your teen to spend quality time and ask questions. Grandparents can serve as role models regarding hobbies, potential careers and sports. Remember to keep this time between your teen and his grandparents sacred. Don’t pry or ask too many questions.

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During the holidays, when your teen is out of school and you’re spending more time together as a family, actively set an example of the ideals you hold dear. The holidays are a wonderful time to focus on traditions and love. You can teach without preaching—simply by setting a standard of the kind of behavior and thoughtfulness you would like to see reflected in your teen.

Don’t Overindulge
Go ahead and enjoy second helpings of that big home cooked meal. But during holiday gatherings, avoid indulging in too much alcohol. Your teen will be watching you and looking to you for social cues, and the last thing you want to do is demonstrate binge drinking. It might be tempting to hand your teen a glass of wine as an indulgence, but the holidays are no time to make exceptions to important rules.  Bear in mind the risks of underage drinking and try to model a healthy relationship with food and drink. Keep in mind that the holidays may be a time of depression and stress, and check in with your teen.

Respect Friends and Family
At holiday parties and gatherings, you may encounter friends and family you rarely see during the rest of the year. Make introductions and approach them cheerfully. Take time to make polite inquiries. If conversations lull, help direct the topics and involve your teen. She’ll learn by example. The holidays are also an important time to show love and respect to elderly family members. Demonstrate patience and compassion.

Support the Community
Even if money is tight during the holidays, you can find small ways to show your teen the power of giving. Make a small food donation or donate time at a local shelter or assisted living facility. Ask your teen to join you in volunteering. Find out what social issues your teen is interested in and help find ways to focus on them together during the holiday season.

Reduce the Focus on Commercialism
Don’t get too wrapped up in the latest gadgets or hottest presents this year. Help your teen understand that the holidays aren’t dictated by the sales and presents. Teach by example by putting the focus on the time you spend together and the holiday memories you make. You may want to work on holiday cards together or involve your teen in a frugal craft project to help take the focus away from the commercial aspects of the holiday season.

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As your child navigates the teen years, you may find yourself questioning your ability to trust her. She may be hanging out with new friends or exhibiting troubling behaviors. If you find yourself leaning toward testing your teen for drugs, consider the topic carefully.

Ask Yourself Why
What is prompting you to consider drug testing your teen? Could your child’s negative behaviors be attributed to issues other than drugs or alcohol? If you haven’t sat down and had a serious talk with your teen about drug use, don’t spring a drug test out as the first defense. Establish a conversation and open yourself up as a sounding board for troubles—especially if your teen is acting withdrawn or depressed. You may end up learning that his behavior is due to other issues.

Consider Your Options
The most common type of drug test is a urine test. You’ve probably experienced one at some point or another as an employee. They’re cheap and easy, but they’re also relatively unreliable. Many common street drugs won’t show up, while others like marijuana may show up weeks after your child quit smoking it. Certain medications can affect the results as well. Alcohol will not show up in a drug test. Urine tests can be administered by your pediatrician or at home, but both types may influence your teen’s trust and may not actually deter drug use.

Consider Your Goals
What do you hope to achieve from a drug test? If you discover that your child is abusing drugs, do you have a game plan? If your child is opposed to the idea, you may be better off approaching the situation the same way, without resorting to drug testing. However, if your child wants to go ahead with a test to prove himself, that may be a more positive situation for your family. Regardless of what you hope to discover, you should plan ahead for any outcomes and should be working closely with your pediatrician to fight drug abuse.

Don’t Force It
The American Academy of Pediatrics opposes forced drug tests for teens. In the context of your family’s dynamic, involuntary drug testing can foster mistrust and resentful behavior in the future. Your teen may be more likely to hide things from you if she already thinks you don’t trust her or that you’ll invade her privacy against her will.

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