As your child gets older, they sometimes distance themselves from you. How do you stay connected?
As parents of a teenager, you know that their attitudes can sometimes go from pleasant to….not so pleasant, without warning. That kind of back-and-forth makes it hard for you to stay connected with them. The more you are involved in your teen's life, the better they tend to behave and listen.
When you talk to your teen, does it seem as if they are on another planet? With all of the technology today, it's hard to get them to actually focus and have a real conversation — but you can still stay connected. Here's how:
- Share their interests — Find something they enjoy doing and do it with them. It will show that you care about what they are involved in.
- Don't lecture them — Unless they did something absolutely terrible, don't be too hard on them, because the last thing you want is to push them away.
- Give them their space — If they want to go listen to music in their bedroom, let them. They need to be alone sometimes too.
- Connect with them online — If you can't beat them, join them! If they have a Facebook and Twitter, make sure you are friending them and following them. And don't forget you can text them too — we all know how much they love to text!
- Talk about your teenage years — They might not want to hear it, but they will eventually thank you for telling them what you went through when you were their age.
The key to really connecting with your teen is to find one thing that works the best and keep doing it until it becomes something that eventually brings you together — and don't worry, once they mature a little, you'll probably be the best of friends!
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